I was reading a blog the other day from someone who takes issue with the term “same sex attraction.”
I guess the gist of the argument was that to use the phrase “same sex attraction” somehow confuses people as to what sort of “same sex attraction” one is talking about.
The example cited was the story in Scripture between David and Jonathan, and their close friendship. The author writes:
It would be extraordinary to read this story and deny that David and Jonathan feel a deep attraction for each other (and thus attraction to someone of the same sex).
I find it extraordinary that the author would call a close friendship between men “same sex attraction,” since, well, no men I’ve ever met have ever talked about their friendships with other men by saying that they are united as friends because of their mutual “same sex attraction.”
Then the author continues with this:
Both the Bible and Christian tradition commend the sort of healthy and holy same-sex friendship experienced by David and Jonathan or Ruth and Naomi.
So according to this author, when the Church uses the phrase “same sex attraction,” it somehow confuses people about the “same sex attraction” that exists between A) close friends of the same sex, such as David and Jonathan, or B). a daugther-in-law and a mother-in-law, in the case of Ruth and Naomi.
[T]here are different ways of desiring union with a person of the same sex, some of which are virtuous and some of which are vicious. Unfortunately, the term “same sex attraction” introduces unnecessary confusion by lumping all of these desires in under one category.
Really? There is that sort of confusion about what “same sex attraction” means?
According to this logic, then the “attraction” a guy feels towards his brothers is “same sex attraction,” and it’s a desire for “union.” Is the “attraction” a man feels towards his father, or uncles, cousins, or nephews “same sex attraction”?
No one has ever hung out with his beer drinking buddies, and toasted to their shared “same sex attraction.” No, they would say some version of, “thank God for friendship!”
I’ve never said to my brothers, whom I love deeply, that I desire “union” with them, nor have any of us ever considered that our love for each other is “same sex attraction.”
It is just so, so weird.