The transformation of our situation isn’t what brings us peace and inner freedom. Only the transformation of our mind and thinking can bring us peace.
This is why Christ was at peace on the Cross, and why so many today find themselves unhappy, even when surrounded by all the wonders the world can provide.
I think of this often when I hear people describe the situation of the man or woman with same sex attraction who has chosen to follow the teachings of the Church. They’ll often say things like, “oh, you’ll just be stuck in a lonely, single life, for the rest of your life. How horrible your life will be if you make this choice!”
(I hate hearing that, by the way. Play the world’s smallest fiddle for me, why don’t ya?)
My answer is always this:
“How badly do you want to know the will of God in your life?”
Most people who are followers of Jesus want to know that more than anything else.
To them I then say that I know what God’s will is for me: to live a single life!
Thanks be to God–I KNOW!
Then the response is often, “but at least all of your other single friends have the hope of being married.”
That always seems silly to me.
Compared to all of my other single friends, who are “constantly living with the possibility of marriage,” I find my lot in life a lot easier. In large part, because I have consciously chosen to view it in that light. For me, I’d say it’s a heckuva lot easier to embrace the known future and make it a rich life, than it is to constantly be wondering if today, or tomorrow, or the next day I might meet my spouse–or perhaps never.
Peace comes from choosing that which we might not have consented to have chosen in the first place, and completely trusting God for our future and our happiness.
That, my friends, is the best path–and the only path–to peace there is.